How to buy and wear your best jewelry mindfully

Awareness seems to be the word of the century.

Everyone’s using it, and so I’m joining the crowd.

Today I’m writing about buying and wearing your best jewelry mindfully.

You must be aware, and mindful of how a piece will be worn, where, and how frequently.

This’s especially true when you’re fancying some more delicate and fragile gems like pearls, opals, or even the world famous tanzanite. So that I could help you with that, I summed up some pieces of advice that will serve you and all kinds of jewels.

The information I’ve gathered here will even help you with those jewels that have gems on the other end of the spectrum; the harder gemstones like sapphires, rubies, spinels, aquamarines, you name it…

I’ve separated these pieces of advice in two parts: while buying, and while wearing the jewels.

Take these recommendations seriously if you wanna have your precious heirlooms last more than a lifetime.

You see, not all gems are suited for a ring, and not all gems are suited for everyday jewelry.

You must look at a jewel wearability.

If you’ve already gone through my FREE course than you already know part of what I’m talking about, and that there are several concepts at play when you’re considering a gems wearability.

If you have no idea of what I’m talking about, click here and get the course. It’s free, and it will help you… Just saying.

Now, having said all that, let’s get down to it!

be mindful at all times

While buying the jewels

The gems

Ask the jeweler what’s the name of the gemstone on the piece your considering, and then ask him about its physical properties. Ask him but do your homework too. Nowadays we have all the information at the tip of our fingers, and so you should search for things as simple as that gem’s hardness (AKA how likely it is to get scratched. A low hardness value means more likeliness of being scratched by other materials). Again, I explain all this in more detail in my Free course so go grab it here.

The type of metal

metals aren’t all equal, and some are harder than others impacting the durability of the piece itself, and ultimately how much you should be paying for the jewel. If we were to put in a sequence the three metals most often seen in fine jewelry, in terms of the hardness of their purest form, we would get the following: platinum, then silver, and finally gold. If we look at all three in their purest form, then platinum is the hardest of them all, making it more immune to scratching, and in theory, the most expensive of the three.

On top of different metals, there’s also the care you must take when using different alloys. For instance, my wife’s engagement ring is made out of white gold; however, our wedding ring is in yellow gold. From wearing them next to each other, there’s some transferring of the yellow alloy into the side of the engagement ring, from having them rubbing against each other. This is something easily fixable at a jeweler, but it is something to consider when you’re buying new jewels you wanna use next to something you already own.

The gem setting

the shape and geometry given to the metal to hold and secure the gems in its place is what we call setting. It must be made in such a way that the gemstone stays shielded from unnecessary or risky exposure to hazards. If the stone is wobbly, then it can get scratched or lost, and it’s not a good indication of proper construction. Also, for softer gems, it’s best if the setting surrounds the outer rim of the gemstone, shielding it from the contact with other surfaces and from any sort of impacts. Designs with a gem almost suspended in the air by fine, thin, and delicate claws is something to use in harder metals, and with harder gemstones.

wear your precious jewels mindfully

While wearing the jewels

The type of jewelry you wear also requires some mindfulness so that they can last as long as possible. That’s because certain kinds of jewels get more exposure than others.

Take a cocktail ring for instance. Although we do tend to use our hands for a lot, and they end up touching all kind of surfaces, those rings aren’t typically used full days in a row. Being less used, the odds of a hard shock, or rubbing in a harder surface get diminished. They also come out of their boxes less often and are therefore more guarded against the hard knocks of life.

Now consider an engagement ring or some other ring you’re loving and wanna wear all day long, all week long. The amount of exposure of that ring to getting scratched or hit by a blow is way larger than in a cocktail ring. Such use requires a gemstone and a design that took wearability into account.

Moving on, let us take a pin or a brooch. These jewels tend to be secured by a sturdy clasp. They also tend to be placed high on the lapel of a jacket which is a safer place, distant from bumps and impacts. Unless you’re Sarah Jessica Parker and you decide to line all your brooches on your glove. In that case, be careful, will’ya? (Check her out in the link below.)

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A necklace can be a good option for softer gems as long as they’re not on a long sautoir that hangs and glams everyone around as you move. If the necklace stays closer to your neck, in that case, yes you can use softer gems all around.

Bracelets also tend to get scratched in time because their always touching tables and other places where you rest your arms. So do the gems on them.

A word on earrings. Although a pretty safe and secure place for softer gems, there’s one gesture that might affect both the gemstone and the jewel. I’m talking about perfume. Spraying some magnificent fragrances behind the ear lobes is a must for many. If you do it after having your earrings on, they’ll inevitably get some perfume on as well. Now, most gems are entirely immune to the chemicals in the fragrance, but the essences on them are made of oils. A small layer of oil on top of a gem can take away some of its shine because the light won’t be able to reflect back in the same way.

This advice’s especially true for pearls because pearls do suffer from constant exposure to make-up and the chemicals in perfumes. Your pearls should be the last thing to put on as you dress, and glam up for the event of the year.

Now, I would love to hear from you.

What’s one change you’re committing on doing about your jewelry to have it last for a lifetime?

Leave a comment below and let me know with as much detail as you’d like. Hopefully, others will read your story too and feel inspired to do the same.

Until next time,


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